Self-Reflection

Why the Stories We Tell Ourselves Matter in the Job Search

Why the Stories We Tell Ourselves Matter in the Job Search

“If you don't believe you are worth it -- why would the person across the table?”

This was part of my comment on a great LinkedIn post shared by my friend and colleague, Nadia De Ala, CPCC, about salary negotiation, and it got me thinking more broadly about the stories we tell ourselves in the career space -- especially during the job search. By definition, job searching is rife with negative messages in the form of silence, outright rejections, & near-misses that progressively wear on our emotions and psyche. We have little control over the external narratives directed at us, but what happens when our internal narratives -- the stories we tell ourselves -- either are or become negative? Where do we go from there and how does that impact our process?

3 Steps to Get the Best ROI from Your Professional Resume Rewrite

3 Steps to Get the Best ROI from Your Professional Resume Rewrite

I am not clairvoyant. Perhaps this is an obvious, rhetorical statement, but as a career coach/resume writer, I sometimes wish I was since this gifting is projected upon me often enough by some prospects and clients. In today’s ‘Amazon Prime Now’ world, we have all become accustomed to, and even somewhat expectant of near-instant service delivery. Advancements in technology and logistics now allow us to push a digital button and anything from our most basic needs (groceries) to our most frivolous wants (fancy gadget/clothing item X) are delivered to our doorstep (within hours) -- all by lifting one finger -- literally. Though resumes are now almost exclusively a digital product (LinkedIn profiles included), the process to generate one is still rather analog and it’s important to make this connection. 

Why Knowing Your Truths is Key to a Successful Job Search

Why Knowing Your Truths is Key to a Successful Job Search

It is often said that “the truth will set you free.” I would extend that adage, adding that in many aspects of life, the truth will also protect you and guide you. The realm of job searching is no exception. Conducting a job search is fraught with many challenges along the way. These range from what job(s) to pursue and how to effectively market yourself, to what role to accept. One of the biggest challenges is maintaining resilience despite the inevitable frustrations and rejections you will experience. Searching for a job is hard enough. I believe that it can become even more arduous if we either aren’t honest with or forget the truths about ourselves.

I believe that there are two main truths that any professional should reflect on and identify before they begin a job search:

  1. The truth about what you want

  2. The truth about who you are

Having clarity and conviction on these two issues before you take your first steps into a job search will help you save time, act with clear purpose, and provide a degree of psychological and emotional shielding to deflect the slings and arrows sent your way. Think of it like taking an intentional step back and performing a pre-job search gut check before any actions are taken.